Spew Forth









Ever want to just spew about something or someone? Maybe your boss, a colleague, a child, spouse, neighbor, the driver in the car next to you, your mother-in-law?

The act of spewing is healing but you must only spew in the presence of someone who holds you dear.

Perhaps something they said set you off in a crazy way and you need to get it out of your system. You can spew to your dog, cat or goldfish. You can spew to your plants. The act of spewing is healing. It’s like writing that Dear John letter or letter of resignation and then tearing it up.

When you spew you get all the nasty out of you and onto the table. And when it’s out – you’re done.


Sanity is restored.

Food for Thought

In my world, things get out of whack when I don’t eat properly. On days when I don’t have fruits or vegetables my system is cranky. When I eat too much sugar or candy I feel sleepy. When I don’t have enough water, I get headaches.

cropped-half-moon-cookies.jpgThe thing is – these are all easy fixes and I can get back on track when I get refocus and eat better and drink more water.

With a bit of exercise and better eating I can face the mirror, myself and the world at large.

As for the meals I do eat, I try to use smaller plates as a way to keep my portions smaller. You can go to any food website and learn more about portion control, good nutrition, calorie count, fat amounts, etc. Knowing about tHoneycrisp appleshem is important. Incorporating them into your world is imperative.

If you are feeling edgy and need a dose of sanity – check your diet. Are you treating your body like a temple or like a trash can?

If you’re trash can material, turn it around NOW and thank me later!


Are we having fun yet?

Another way to stay sane is to move. Exercise. Dance. Crawl. Jump. Run. Walk.

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Hiking in autumn weather is the best!

Finding something you love to do as a form of exercise will insure it happens more than once. Walkers find time each day to get out for their walks – and they think of it as fun, not work. That goes for anything you get excited about – cycling, tennis, cross-country skiing, swimming, dancing, figure skating, running and on and on.

One friend started swimming last year. Not only is she stronger than ever, she is part of a group of swimmers who connect 2-3 times each week. The social piece of it is just as important as the endorphins that are giving her the exercise ‘high.’

People who regularly work out do so because they plan ahead. They know what time they have to get up in order to work out before the day begins, or they pack a lunch and get out of the office and into the fresh air.

Another friend rides her bike to work and is amazed at how wonderful she’s been feeling. It takes a huge effort to get up and out an hour earlier but she is so grateful  for it. She is happy, feels fit and has time to herself on the trip. She is already coming up with alternative exercise as the days get shorter and colder.

Movement – in any way that feels fun to you is not only great for your body, it’s great for your head. It give you time away from the things that take you down. It gets the blood flowing and the brain cells popping (that’s a medical term) and the end result is how much better you feel after one session.

I joined an aerobics class at the YMCA when my son was just a toddler. That class not only became the highlight of my week, it also was a place to have conversations with other adults that included more than one word at a time (Hot, NO, airplane, milk…) the typical conversation for babies. The class, teacher and participants were my mainstay for years as we learned each other’s stories and became friends.

Exercise can be a walk around the block. It can be dancing in the living room. It can be taking the stairs to the top floor (just for the heck of it) and other little activities. Once you turn it into a game it really can be fun –  a true way to stay sane!


Sleep Away

One of my favorite times of day is when I ‘get’ to go to bed.

One of the ways I keep sane is sleeping an average of eight hours each night. I love bedtime and the ability to crawl into a warm bed in a cold room. I love the way the blankets embrace me with the knowledge we will be together for a good 8 hours. I look forward to that downtime and I feel good in the morning after a night of slumber.

However, on those days when I don’t get a solid 8 hours due to travel, illness, worry, late night partying (who knew I was such a party animal?) or other events it takes its toll on me. My energy is low, my mood is sour and I forget things.

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Nap time for everyone!

If that happens for more than one night, I get headaches and my body feels droopy and I feel sad. And I have a “woe is me” sort of attitude about everything.  Feeling like that and having to go to work was always a nightmare. I had to pretend I was sane, remember my assignments and function normally. Good luck with that.

Getting back on track might take a few nights but once there – in the cold, dark room, in a warm bed, I do what it takes to get back to those precious eight hours of sleep.


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Taking time off

In order to keep sane, you have to know when to take time off. To get away. To go to bed early.

I’ll see you on Sunday!

The Pull of Music

One of my favorite ways to stay sane is to listen to music. Depending on my mood the music could be upbeat to raise my energy or low-key to help me settle down and concentrate. In the mornings I enjoy classical music, no words, just the familiar sounds of lilting notes.

When I’m outside the music of nature soothes my senses and helps me get into a new sort of rhythm.  I also enjoy the sounds of nature at night, with my windows open, I welcome the cricket symphony which eases me into slumber.

Music helps me remember past moments as well. I am pulled back in time when I hear a song from my childhood, or a song from my teens. I can go right back to another time and place when I hear a particular song. Music helps bridge where I stand today with happy moments, celebrations, and reunions of yesterday.

Music makes me cry too. Does that ever happen to you? A song about lost love, car accidents, war casualties, and other real life experiences just reach out and grab me. And, it usually happens every time I hear the song, not just the first the time. And that’s ok too.

Ok, time to wipe my eyes.

I hope your day is filled with sweet sounds that bring smiles to your faces.

Volunteering: Give and Take

As you may have guessed, I am a people person. I love connecting with friends, strangers and soon to be friends. Although I enjoy silence and time alone, I find I am at my best when I am with others.

I realized the best way to connect is to join an organization that does somethigold rotary wheel-smng I approve of and want to take part in. Organizations like local Rotary Clubs, Peace Corps, Meet-Up groups, clean-up committees, volunteer projects, house building organizations, school tutoring and other similar organization appeal to me.

The act of volunteering allows me to contribute to something bigger than myself. The act of connecting gives me a venue to meet and socialize with others who are drawn to the same issues that interest me. It makes me feel good about myself mentally and emotionally. When I am doing something physical it’s even better because I feel as if I am giving and receiving at the same time.

Another way I receive while giving is by meeting new people. I may be cleaning up a highway or taking tickets at an event and you can bet I am talking to the people next to me, the patrons and the organizers. I learned long ago that we all have a story to tell so when I meet people I wait for their stories. Sometimes it takes a few minutes; sometimes it takes years. In the meantime, I am listening, sharing and enjoying the give and take of it all.







volunteering can improve mental health, extend life